>NH: Jesus.
I would hope He (Jesus) has little, if anything, to do with this, but I
basically agree. This is disgusting.
-Sean
>
>On Tue, 23 Sep 1997, MARINA YERESHENKO wrote:
>
>>
>> 2) A girl cannot walk around alone freely since the age of 10, no matter
>> how she is dressed. And when some creep comes up to you at the
>> street, grabs you by the hand and says something like: "Come with me,
>> beauty", God help you if you try to say something back. Not even "F__k
>> off". Even if you call him "stupid" or in any other way "be rude", he
>> will hit you (you are lucky if once). You are not supposed to be rude to
>> a man, and he will consider himself doing you a favor by "teaching you a
>> lesson". So next time you would not express disrespect to someone who is
>> bigger and stronger (the same as if in America, you'd try to fight with a
>> cop. Except that you can sue a cop).
>>
>> If in this situation, you try to walk away, he will follow you. He would
>> not probably hit you if you don't provoke him, but ignoring a man is also
>> disrespect. So he (or they, men usually hunt in groups) will follow you
>> until they get tired saying all kinds of things they can think of (Hey,
>> where are you going so fast, pretty? You sure you don't want me to f. you? I
>> would f. you go-o-od! and so on).
>>
>> It can happen any time you go somewhere alone. Any time you get out of
>> your home, to be precise. And that's during peaceful times. If you are
>> lucky to get a civil war going in your country, things really go to the
>> extreme. Because there is nothing that a 20 year old guy with an AK-47
>> feel he's not entitled to. If you are a woman, you have to deal with it
>> every day,no matter what you think about it. Most of people just don't
>> think about it, taking it as part of being a woman, along with a smaller
>> size of meal or menstrual cramps.
>>
>> Anyway, there is a way to deal with it. It took me about 19 years, but I
>> figured it out. First, you should never get mad and never get scared. And
>> act as confident as you can. So, when a nut on the street walks up to you
>> asking whether you'd go with him, you just have to look him in the eye
>> and calmly say "No". I still don't understand why it happens, but it
>> always does -- the guy would look away, with an expression like he suddenly
>> remembered he forgot his keys in his car, and quietly dissappears.
>>
>> If he has an AK-47 or simply is wearing that green-and-brown military
>> stuff, however, then it's more complicated. You'd have to act very nice,
>> and talk to him for a while, ignoring the propositions by acting like you
>> are too clueless to understand what he's talking about. If you get to the
>> point when he actually asks you whether you are married, you should not
>> lie if you don't have a ring, but telling him that you are going to get
>> married pretty soon would usually work. But better yet, pay attention
>> while going anywhere, and if you see a militiaman, or several of them, 20
>> feet around your course, go to the opposite side of the street. If you
>> did not manage to avoid it, God help you. You can still survive, if you
>> have enough nerve and can lie assertively. Like a friend of mine once
>> surrounded by two patrolmen (who were supposed to protect the streets, by
>> the way) got away by telling them that her father was the head of the
>> city police. The guys knew she was bluffing, but there was no way they
>> could know for sure. And if they actually raped the daughter of the
>> police chief, they can very well go and kill themselves, because
>> otherwise they would very likely have to regret they were ever born. So,
>> if you have a bigger man with a gun, or act like you do, you have a chance.
>>
>> This is just a little bit of "The Rules of Survival for Females in My
>> Country" I could write a book about. Sorry for going off-subject again.
>> It's just Emrah's posting invoked some sentimental memories.
>>
>> Marina
>>
>>
>> "Femininity is code for femaleness plus whatever society
>> happens to be selling at the time."
>> Naomi Wolf
>>
>
>"There are two kinds of dates; the kind that you go out with, and the
>small fruit that you eat."
> -my aunt
This archive was generated by hypermail 2b29 : Thu May 25 2000 - 19:06:46 PDT